I recommend having a defined goal – something that you can measure.
The goal does NOT have to be perfection! Just progress works just fine, and still serves to give you something to celebrate about yourself when you achieve it.
As I continue to completely obsess over learning everything related to DR because I want to understand it completely to be able to help other women to the absolute MAX, I’ve completed a certification program to become a personal trainer. Although I have a background in health care as an optometrist (and we spend a large chunk of our 4 years of optometry school learning about anatomy, physiology, pharmacology, etc), and though I’ve gone through multiple programs and books to how to address diastasis recti, it’s crucial to me that I have the foundation to teach safely. That’s the part that’s really making me crazy and set me on this path – no one really seems to be the expert, or even have the issue enough on their radar to know not only how to help with it, but HOW TO NOT MAKE IT WORSE.
Oops, already I digress. That’s not what I meant for this post to be about.
Actually, it’s supposed to be about this quote I just came across in the training manual:
“Though a fit-looking outer self is a big part of why an individual starts to train,
it is not exclusively the biggest factor in, or the resulting benefit of, fitness training
There is a balance between health, wellness and conditioning that serves a bigger
and broader purpose for the individual who seeks meaningful and positive life
change, that will last.”
I like this. It’s following a passage that talks about how the mission of a personal trainer is not to make everybody into a rock hard body. I think this idea is something that probably intimidates a lot of people, and especially women. I know it’s true for me. I mean, not only do I not really want a super rock hard body – because I know it entails a lot of time I don’t have right now, food sacrifices I don’t want to make right now, and seems like a gigantic leap from where I am right now – but, I don’t want to feel pressure that that SHOULD be the goal. And therefore that not achieving it would be a failure.
But, I can totally live with and EMBRACE the concept of seeking a balance between health, wellness and conditioning that serves a bigger and broader purpose for the infividual who seeks meaningful and positive life change THAT WILL LAST.
That’s cool. I can dig it.
Also, a big thing that I’ve discovered in the last 4 years or so of being a mother (I’m counting the time since I first got pregnant – pregnancy counts as being a mom!), is that my priorities around my body have shifted.
I want to be strong, for myself and for my kids.
I want to be healthy.
I want to feel good about myself.
I don’t want to look pregnant when I’m not pregnant.
But, as much as I want these things and strive for them, I also REFUSE to obsess or freak out over my weight.
This body just created NEW PEOPLE.
NEW PEOPLE WHO ARE MY NEW FAVORITE PEOPLE.
Right? Have you had this thought?
And then thought, THANK YOU, BODY.
I like this thought. I struggled with eating and weight stuff throughout high school and college. I know a lot of women did/do. I’m tired of that. I don’t want to get back to that mindset. I’ve got bigger fish to fry now. Greater life perspective. Greater respect for my body. Greater love for myself.
So, time for a different balance. A reset on mindset and values. A shift in priorities. A change in the “Why” behind the workout.
What do you think? Has how you’ve felt about your body changed since you went through pregnancy?